80 Things Every Grown Woman Should Know & Think About

1. If a man wants you, nothing can keep him away. > If he doesn't want you, nothing can make him stay. > 2. Stop making excuses for a man's behavior. > 3. If you have ANY doubt in your mind about a > man's character, leave him alone. > 4. Allow your intuition (or spirit) to save you > from heartache. > 5. Stop trying to change yourself for a > relationship that's not meant to be. > 6. Don't force an attraction. > 7. Slower is better. > 8. Never live your life for a man before you find > what makes you truly happy. > 9. If a relationship ends because the man was not > treating you as you deserve then heck no you > can't "be friends." A friend wouldn't mistreat a > friend. > 10. Have faith in God regarding your relationship, > but don't let faith make you stupid. God does > things decent and in order. > 11. Don't settle. > 12. If you feel like he is stringing you along, > then he probably is. > 13. If he keeps changing his mind about the > relationship-take that as a BIG sign that he is > unstable. Do you really want to be with a > man like that? > 14. Don't stay because you think "it will get > better." You'll be mad at yourself a year later > for staying when things are not better. > 15. Honorable men take care of their business and > aren't involved in a whole lot of mess. > 16. The only person you can control in a > relationship is you. > 17. There's only one 'reason' a man dumps you; he > doesn't want you. > 18. Avoid men who've got a bunch of children by a > bunch of different women. He didn't marry them > when he got them pregnant, why would he treat you > any differently? > 19. You really do have to kiss a few frogs before > finding the prince. > 20. Always put yourself and your happiness first. > 21. Always have your own set of friends separate > from his. > 22. Maintain boundaries in how a guy treats you. > If something bothers you, speak up. > 23. Like from the show Sex and the City, if he > doesn't call, he just isn't that interested. > 24. Be honest and up-front. > 25. Know when to cut the cord, don't be strung > along. > 26. Don't fall for the "I'm confused role". Remove > yourself from the situation to let him figure > things out (but don't wait for him, move on). > 27. If you want to have a clue as to how he will > treat you, watch how he treats the WOMEN in his > family (not just mom). > 28. There's more than physical abuse, there's > emotional and mental abuse. If he causes any of > them...flee. > 29. You cannot change a man's behaviors. Change > comes from within. > 30. Don't let him place rules on you that he is > not willing to follow himself -- double-standard. > 31. Don't EVER make him feel he is more important > than you are...even if he has more education or > in a better job. > 32. Do not make him into a quasi-god. He is a man, > nothing more nothing less. > 33. Demand respect and if he can't give it, he > can't have you! > 34. Don't compete with other woman, but be aware > that men are attracted to what they see. > 35. If you think he is cheating, he probably is. > Confront him right away and if you feel he's > lying, let him go. > 36. Actions speak louder than words. > 37. Never let a man define who you are. > 38. Never rely on a man for compliments, look to > yourself for that. > 39. Never borrow someone else's man. > 40. If he cheated with you, he'll cheat on you. > 41. Just because he says he loves you, doesn't > mean that he won't hurt you and it doesn't mean > that you are meant to be with him. > 42. To use painful hard-won wisdom-'get it right' > the next time. > 43. Know that you deserve to be the number one > person in the life of the #1 person in your life. > 44. Love is a verb. > 45. Learn to give up your lifelong task of trying> > to make someone unavailable-available, someone > ungiving-giving, and someone unloving-loving. > 46. A man will only treat you the way you ALLOW > him to treat you. > 47. All men are NOT dogs. > 48. You should not be the one doing all the > bending...compromise is a two way street. > 49. If you don't love self...you can't love anyone > else. > 50. You cannot mend someone else's broken heart. > 51. You need time to heal between relationships... > there is nothing cute about baggage...deal with > your issues before pursuing a new relationship. > 52. You should never look for someone to COMPLETE > you...a relationship consists of two WHOLE > individuals...look for someone complimentary... > not supplementary. > 53. Dating is fun...even if he doesn't turn out to > be Mr. Right. > 54. NEVER give more in a relationship than you are > getting out of it. > 55. Never become your man's "therapist". > 56. When actions and words conflict, believe the > actions. Respond to the actions. > 57. A real healthy relationship requires two > people. One person can mend it* but it takes two > to make it work. > 58. Don't fall for the "I'm not the loving > type"...when a man loves you there is nothing in > this world (within reason) that he wouldn't > do for you. > 59. Make him miss you sometimes...when a man > always know where you are, and you're always > readily available to him he takes it for granted. > 60. Give him his space...let him go out with his > boys, don't pressure him to spend time with you, > You can't force a man to hang out with you. > 61. If you wouldn't allow your daughter to be with > him you shouldn't. > 62. Never let a man know everything. He will use > it against you later. > 63. Never move into his mother's house. > 64. Provide financially for yourself and don't > depend on anyone. > 65. Never co-sign for a man. > 66. Never believe you have the perfect guy and he > is so innocent. > 67. Never spoil your man; let him spoil you. > 68. Never let a man mess up your credit. > 69. When it's time to let go; let go. > 70. Good men should be treated like good men. > 71. Don't play games. > 72. You can't make a whore into a housewife - or > husband. > 73. Don't fully commit to a man who doesn't give > you everything that you need. Keep him in your > radar but get to know others. > 74. Compatibility in terms of educational > attainment, values, beliefs, personal and career > goals, and socioeconomic status, are important. > 75. Never date a guy who wears colored contacts. > 76. Never believe a man who says "that's just my > baby's momma", you can be sure, there'll be drama. > 77. Never believe a man that tells you he wants > to be with you, while he's with someone else, - > if he wanted to be with you, he would make it > happen more sooner than later. > 78. Don't be a man's door mat , make him open the > door for you, because a real man would do this on > his own. > 79. Dealings with a married man, most likely wont > work out in your favor. > 80. There is someone out there worthy to be in > your life, let out the trash so he can come in. > -------------